3 Tips To Quiet Your Inner Critic
We all have an inner critic, an inner mean girl, that little voice that is constantly tearing us down.
One of the biggest hurdles I've been working to overcome is to quiet that little, mean voice I have in my head. And in all honesty, I'm not there yet. Often, that voice is still telling my I can't have what I want or that I'm not good enough. It creeps in the corners of my mind, waiting until it's time for me to put myself out there and then, BOOM, it strikes. But the difference is now I don't let that voice win, and I refuse to let it stop me from doing the things I want to do.
Anyone that knows me knows I've always been HYPER critical of myself. Hyper critical of my body, my career, the way I walk, the way I talk... everything. This criticism I've always placed on myself has pushed me forward in life in many ways, and it's probably part of the reason I've had some of the successes that I have. But I'm done with being pushed by my inner critic. Now, I'm working on being pulled my intuition and my higher self.
I find that people are afraid to stop being mean to themselves because they're afraid if they start to treat themselves with kindness they might never get anywhere, and to that I say PISH POSH! That's so not true! Not only will quieting your inner critic and being kind to yourself propel you forward in an even bigger way, it will feel GOOD while you're doing it! Win, win.
Here are 3 tips to quiet your inner critic that have really helped me and my clients.
1. QUIT COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS.
Comparison fuels your inner critic and smothers your higher self. I know, I know, not comparing yourself to others is WAY easier said than done, but it needs to be said because it's hugely important. Often the inner critic's favorite way to tare you down is by telling you how terrible you are because you're not as good as that other person, or you'll never look as good as her. Stop comparing yourself to others and you will experience a huge difference in the way you feel.
To stop comparing yourself to others, first notice when you're doing it. Awareness is power! Next, label it, say "This is me comparing myself to someone else." Last, try to find a new way to look at the situation. If you're comparing yourself to a woman that you think has a beautiful body, send her love and gratitude for being who she is and then think about 3 things that you love about yourself. The more you apply these tools, the more second nature they will become.
2. CONSCIOUSLY PAUSE THROUGHOUT THE DAY.
Every day make time to pause and spend time with yourself in quiet. Quiet alone time helps you connect with your higher self, and the more connected you are to her the less power your inner critic will have over you.
Start your morning with a meditation or mindfulness practice (don't know how? Get my Lifestyle Cleanse Here!). Continue to pause throughout the day and check in with yourself. If it's hard for you to stop what you're doing and spend time reflecting, set alarms. Make sure you stop and quiet your mind at least 3 times a day, this will ensure that you're clearing out the clutter in your mind, including that mean girl dialogue.
3. TALK IT OUT!
This one is pretty huge. One of the best ways to quiet your inner critic is to tell someone the thoughts you're having. If you keep everything inside all of the time it's really hard to move through it. You can only do so much on your own, sometimes a helping hand can go a LONG way.
Find a friend, partner or coach that is willing to listen. Sometimes just saying the things your inner critic tells you out loud can help you realize how ridiculous it is! You know the saying, "You are your own worst critic"? It's so incredibly true. When you have the support of someone who has your best interests in mind, you'll be able to begin conquering that inner mean girl.
If you're like me, and struggle with a super harsh inner critic, try these tips out! It might take a little while to get used to applying these tools, but with time it will begin to come naturally. Before you know it, your inner critic will go from a shout to a whisper. Who knows, maybe she'll even move out of your mind completely. It's definitely worth a try!
p.s. Want help with this? Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and let me know what's going on! I'm here to help you find balance in your life so that you can be who you really are :)