GLOW from the inside out {part 1}, Igniting your inner light

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”- Marianne Williamson


The first step to activating your inner glow is to ignite your inner light.

We all have an inner light. It's the part of us that lights up a room, it's the twinkle in our eyes, it’s the force of energy we emit, captivating and irresistible; it's our magnetic connection to the Universe and our deepest knowing. It's the part of us that craves growth and rejects negativity. 

No matter how disconnected you may feel from this inner light, or how dim it might seem, it's there somewhere deep within you, I promise. 

When you were young, your inner light was probably shining really bright. You felt confident, lit up a room without even trying, and you had a natural glow about you – you were you in your rarest form

As life has happened and you grew older, chances are that inner light slowly but surely dimmed down. It might seem that it doesn’t even exist anymore. You might think this glow is related to age, the sun – that  it’s simply a surface level characteristic. And you might try to recreate that young, radiating glow of happiness with different aluminizing makeup products, but when you wash your makeup off at the end of the night, that artificial glow probably goes with it. 

So how do you get that natural, inherent glow back? Do you change the way you eat? Do you buy it with the latest and ‘greatest’ products? Do you find a switch and turn it on?

Over the next few blog posts I'm going to break down, step-by-step, ways to get your glow back.

Today we're focusing on igniting your inner light.

As I mentioned before, most of us started out shining bright. We’ve seen our light; we know it did in fact once exist, and that is has, over the years, become more and more faint. Why is that?

I’ll tell you a bit about what I’ve learned from personal experience…. a HUGE part of my own inner light dimming was caused by me trying to fit in with my peers. I felt that in order to fit in, I had to dim my light, and put myself down.

I have so many memories of myself from my adolescence to early adulthood in which I would literally lower myself, or dim my light, just for the sake of feeling like I was cool and accepted by the people I was surrounding myself with.  

I would hear other people complaining about being "soooo tired" and then I would be like, "Ugh, I'm sooo tired too." When I actually wasn't! 

Or when I started arts high school and heard everyone around me talking about how "broke" they were. I would be like, "I am so broke... ugh it sucks". Which I hate to say was a complete lie. I wasn't broke. I may not have been a millionaire but I wasn't broke by any means. I just wanted people to like me. 

When I would hear people complaining about things, I wanted to join in on the conversation – to fit in, to be liked. So I too would start to complain about things, even if the complaints I was making didn't feel true to me.

I also started dimming my light because it felt UNSAFE to shine bright at many points in my teen years and early twenties. When I would shine I noticed that I felt vulnerable – I was opened to judgement and criticism. I quickly learned that in order to avoid the pain of being judged, I had to keep myself from being too bold or bright. (BTW I later realized that was total B.S.)

At the same time, I felt that people "liked me better" when I kept my positive, energetic vibes a little lower and my light a little dimmer. 

These habits and patterns, though seemingly harmless at the time, really had an affect on me.

In fact, I still dim my light to this day, because I'm afraid that if I shine too brightly right off the bat, people will be overwhelmed and won't like me. The difference now is that I'm aware of this tendency to fear being judged in a negative way - my awareness gives me the power to change how I react to my fears and actively make new choices. I have the power to tell myself ‘just be yourself!’ But it's definitely something I am still working through. 

The truth of the matter is that there will always be people who judge you, and there will always be people who don't really like you, whether or not you’re being yourself. So you might as well be yourself.

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There's a bright light in ALL OF US. Each and every one of us has a light inside that's dying to shine, and it can come out in so many different ways. 

You may shine your light by expressing yourself creatively, or by speaking your truth, or maybe by simply showing yourself some love. However you do it, it doesn't matter, it's just doing it that counts. 

If you're reading this and you're like, "What light?". Dig deeper. Start asking yourself how you've been dimming your light.

We can dim our own light in so many different ways. Here are a few you might relate to:

  • Eating a poor diet

  • Negative self-talk

  • Hanging around low vibe people

  • Using substances

  • Verbally putting ourselves down

  • Not listening to our intuition

Basically any self sabotaging behavior dims our light.

So how do you turn that inner light up? 

Step one: Notice when you are dimming your light. eg. You might be dimming your light by something quite simple, like using language that puts you down, or eating one too many pieces of candy. Every time you start to notice this, just try to observe it. DO NOT JUDGE YOURSELF FOR IT. 
Step two: Recognize that you are not your thoughts or your actions, so you have the power to change them. 
Step three: Make a new choice. eg. If you notice that you often dim your light by putting yourself down when you're around other people, catch yourself before you even get that far, and either say something positive to yourself about yourself or don't say anything at all. 
Step four: Surround yourself with a supportive community. eg. Enlist a friend, work with a coach, become a member of an uplifting group, no matter how you do it make sure you are surrounding yourself with people who WANT you to shine your light. Adding people like that into your life will help you continue to stay true to yourself.

As you start turning up your inner light, you will start to feel that spark begin to turn back on inside of you. You'll start to feel a little bit brighter and a little more confident. 

This is just one small part of a larger journey, and remember, it's a JOURNEY. One action at a time, you will feel things start to change.

Go shine bright!

Love, 

Natalie

p.s. Stay tuned for the next post on how to GLOW from the inside out :)